Good observations. I know a lot of feminist types will be frothing at the idea that women CAN preempt overly pushy sexual moves by a guy by simply: Not accepting an invite to his place; not agreeing to a tete a tete meeting in a secluded place; not accepting a ride home with a guy you work with but don’t really know.

Also, if an overly aggressive man makes advances that you don’t want you are empowered to say “no”.

You can also call a friend/police to fend him off.

That “women’s intuition thing you hear about? I totally believe we have it. I do anyway.

There was an obnoxious manager I had to deal with when I was still in the biz world. This guy was a known sleaze and a groper. You NEVER got on an elevator alone with him. He would wait in darkened office doorways and lunge at you. Complaints about him to the dummies in Human Resources were ignored. “No” mean nothing to him, in fact I think it made him more amorous.

However, a well aimed glass of ice water (accidental of course!!) to the crotch of his pants worked amazingly well. Followed by a horrified and really loud “OMG, I think Marshall peed his pants,”. He steered clear of me after that.

Another time, a pushy co-worker who constantly made lewd comments and attempted groping was outed at a Friday night after work pub night event. He was making his usual moves, when I remarked nastily “Oh come on, Fred, you’d screw a snake if you could get it’s legs apart.”. There had been a lot of noisy conversation, but right when I said that there had been a lull. The whole crowd focused their eyes on Fred and laughed rudely. Fred NEVER again made lewd comments or unwanted advances. Not to me, anyhow.

I think we have to be more proactive about dealing with sexual bullies, and I think we need to deal with minor affronts on a one to one basis, rather than right away publicly accusing the person of being a sexual predator of some kind.

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Louise Peacock is a writer, garden designer, Reiki practitioner, singer-songwriter & animal activist. Favorite insult “Eat cake & choke” On Medium since 2016.

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Louise Peacock

Louise Peacock

Louise Peacock is a writer, garden designer, Reiki practitioner, singer-songwriter & animal activist. Favorite insult “Eat cake & choke” On Medium since 2016.