It disturbs me tha anyone should minimize or attempt to minimize your grief.

You have to deal with it as best you can and your experience is unique to you.

Just because someone else feels that they have managed to cope with it in better way, is not a good reason to chide you.

"He that is thy friend indeed, he will help thee in thy need. When thou sorrow, he will weep, when thou wake, he cannot sleep...."

Just saying...;-(